- Defining Self-Confidence
Self-confidence is the belief in oneself and abilities, it describes an internal state made up of what we think and feel about ourselves. This state is changeable according to the situation we are currently in and our responses to events going on around us. It is not unusual to feel quite confident in some circumstances and less confident in others. It is also influenced by past events and how we remember them; recalling a former success has a very different outcome in terms of our confidence levels than thinking about an occasion when we failed.
Confidence and self-esteem are terms which are often used interchangeably, but although there is over-lap perhaps there are also subtle differences. Self-confidence can refer to how we feel about ourselves and our abilities whereas self-esteem refers directly to whether or not we appreciate and value ourselves. We may have been discouraged from being boastful but a healthy amount of self-liking and self-approval is necessary if we are to have the confidence to meet life’s challenges and participate as fully as we wish to in whatever makes life enjoyable and rewarding for us. In a sense, we could say that having healthy self-esteem leads to being self-confident.
Early experiences are influential in achieving a healthy level of self-esteem. If we are fortunate and had relatively favourable conditions and experiences whilst we are growing up, we are likely to develop a healthy self-esteem and become confident people. However, if conditions and experiences are mainly negative we are more likely to experience difficulties developing our confidence. Some of the negative messages we have received will have been internalized and become part of what we think and feel about ourselves
A person lacking in self-confidence who receives a low mark for an assignment may think, “What else could I expect? I’m stupid, this proves it, and I might as well leave.” A person with healthy self-esteem who receives a low mark may think, “I wonder where I went wrong? I’ll find out so that I can do better next time.” Although this person may feel disappointed, s/he does not feel diminished as a person, by the low mark.
If we have little self-confidence then the ‘low mark’ scenario may trigger memories of similar events in the past and then lead to a cycle of negative thinking in the form of self-critical put-downs. This is how we intensify and perpetuate a lack confidence. When we feel low like this our expectations about the future tend to be negative and this discourages us from really trying. Then we experience another disappointing result and feel negative about ourselves again.
There are a lot of ways to build Self-Confidence. One of it is motivation, Motivation is a theoretical construct used to explain behavior. It gives the reasons for people’s actions, desires, and needs. Motivation can also be defined as one’s direction to behavior, or what causes a person to want to repeat a behavior and vice versa. A motive is what prompts the person to act in a certain way, or at least develop an inclination for specific behavior. According to Maehr and Meyer, “Motivation is a word that is part of the popular culture as few other psychological concepts are.”
Motivation is something that we could think when we were down or having problems with life. Though professionals do conferences about motivation, people can’t afford to go to the venue. There are factors that people couldn’t come to those events. The easiest way to spread motivation is through the advertisements but the easiest way to do it is through the internet.
- Motivational sites and Screenshots
A lot of articles have enlisted some top sites that will put in motivation in your body. They actually made it practical for the viewers to clearly see what message they really wanted to give.
Here are some of the sites from http://www.entre-propel.com/:
Motivational Tips and Tricks
- Zen Habits – Top 20 Motivation Hacks – An Overview– some great motivational hacks brought to you by Leo Babauta, author of Zen Habits
- Zen Habits – The Ultimate Guide to Motivation – How to Achieve Any Goal– Another Zen Habits post. Leo just really knows motivation!
- Lifehacker – Jerry Seinfeld’s Productivity Secret– an interesting technique comedian Jerry Seinfeld uses
- Pick The Brain – 21 Proven Motivation Tactics– here are some useful tactics for improving your motivation
- org – 50 Strategies For Making Yourself Work– some interesting techniques for keeping yourself working and staying self-motivated
- org – Thirteen Tricks to Motivate Yourself– some more great tips to motivate yourself, brought to you by Lifehack.org
- Zen Habits – Get Off Your Butt: 16 Ways to Get Motivated When You’re in a Slump– Leo offers some insightful ways to get yourself out of a slump
- org – 8 Tips to Create a Day to Recharge Your Motivation– some useful tips you can use to make time for yourself to recharge
- org – 8 Steps To Continuous Self-Motivation– these are some wonderful techniques for sustaining long-term motivation
- WE The Change – Top 31 Motivation Hacks– even more interesting and relevant tips to motivate yourself
- The Positivity Blog – 5 Things to Remain Positive About When All Hope is Gone– there is a lot of discouragement out there. Here is how to cope
- Betterlife-seeker – Five Amazing Ways To Motivate Yourself– Better-life Seeker offers five interesting ways to ensure you are motivated
Another organization has been doing talks of motivation and TED is one of it. TED is a nonpartisan nonprofit devoted to spreading ideas, usually in the form of short, powerful talks. TED began in 1984 as a conference where Technology, Entertainment and Design converged, and today covers almost all topics — from science to business to global issues — in more than 110 languages. TED is famous for their videos in their Youtube. Either it’s about getting a work, running your own etc.
A video entitled “The Skill of Self-Confidence” where as the Athletic Director and head coach of the Varsity Soccer team at Ryerson University,Dr. Joseph is often asked what skills he is searching for as a recruiter: is it speed? Strength?Agility? In Dr. Joseph’s TEDx Talk, he explores self confidence and how it is not just the most important skill in athletics, but in our lives.
ICT has a very big role in our lives because this is also used in giving people hope if they are down. We truly know that it is the esiest way to reach out those who are in need of positivity.